• Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar

Brendon Marotta

  • Work
  • Blog
  • Show
  • About
  • Contact
  • Subscribe

How Teal’s Video On Friendzoning People Helped Me Get Engaged

November 29, 2019 By Brendon Marotta

In this video, Teal Swan describes how to stay friends with someone after a breakup:

Ironically, this video gave me a realization that helped me align to marriage.

In the video, Teal suggests taking the other person as a part of yourself and making their needs a part of the process.

For example, if you break up with someone, are still friends with them, and want to go on a date with someone new, you might share that desire with your former partner and see what they need to feel okay with you doing that.

This approach treats going from relationship to friendship not as a “breakup” but as a transition. You are still in connection with the other person, but now you just have different roles and are fulfilling different needs.

Watching this, I realized this approach to transitions applied not just to transitioning to less romantic relationships, but to transitioning to more romantic relationships.

The transition from relationship to friendship is not as big a transition as relationship to marriage or even married to married with kids. (In fact, married to married with kids might be the biggest transition of all.)

What makes the transition safe is making all needs of each person a part of it, and moving at a pace that feels safe.

The way I explained it to my now fiance is that I wanted the same safety and care in our transition to marriage or having kids as she would want me to have if we were breaking up and trying to stay friends. (She got it, which is part of the reason I picked her.)

My own fear was that in transitioning one of my needs would get dropped in the process. However, if all of our needs are made a part of change, we are both comfortable transitioning to whatever relationship serves us together.

All relationships transition. Even relationships where the title does not change like parent and child will be different when the child is an infant vs. when the child leaves for school or work.

I recommend watching this video and using this technique even if you are not planning on breaking up or getting married.

This approach is useful regardless of your relationship status (even single to friends with benefits is a transition) and could also be applied to business relationships (a promotion, hiring, firing, or starting a business with someone are all transitions).

P.S. You can watch my proposal here.

 

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

Filed Under: Blog

Primary Sidebar

Follow

  • Email
  • Facebook
  • GitHub
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn
  • Medium
  • Pinterest
  • RSS
  • Twitter
  • Vimeo
  • YouTube

Subscribe for more here:


Share

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedinmail

Archives

  • September 2023
  • August 2023
  • July 2023
  • June 2023
  • May 2023
  • April 2023
  • November 2022
  • June 2022
  • February 2022
  • January 2022
  • December 2021
  • November 2021
  • October 2021
  • August 2021
  • July 2021
  • June 2021
  • May 2021
  • April 2021
  • March 2021
  • February 2021
  • December 2020
  • November 2020
  • October 2020
  • September 2020
  • July 2020
  • June 2020
  • May 2020
  • April 2020
  • March 2020
  • February 2020
  • January 2020
  • December 2019
  • November 2019
  • October 2019
  • September 2019
  • July 2019
  • June 2019
  • April 2019
  • March 2019
  • January 2019
  • December 2018
  • November 2018
  • October 2018
  • September 2018
  • August 2018
  • July 2018
  • June 2018
  • April 2018
  • March 2018
  • February 2018
  • January 2018
  • December 2017
  • November 2017
  • October 2017
  • September 2017
  • August 2017
  • June 2017
  • May 2017
  • April 2017
  • January 2017
  • December 2016
  • November 2016
  • October 2016
  • September 2016
  • August 2016
  • July 2016
  • June 2016
  • May 2016
  • April 2016
  • March 2016
  • February 2016
  • January 2016
  • December 2015
  • November 2015
  • October 2015
  • September 2015
  • August 2015
  • July 2015
  • June 2015
  • February 2015
  • January 2015
  • October 2014

Copyright © 2023 ยท Brendon Marotta